What is happiness and how will it ever go forward?

It always will go forward!

How do you know you might ask and my answer will be factual, because it always has. Some of you will though argue but know-body gives of fuck as how I feel. Well, that is not true at all. Many care and why? Because you matter in many ways.  We are all a piece of the puzzle. Forget about the big political spectacle, what matter is the daily stuff of engagement and learning. Who has it worse in the world? The individual that has not eaten for the last ten days? The individual who just lost his/her first born child because there was no clean water available? Think about it. I hope this brings motivation to read below the pic. 

 

Life in its ups and downs, full of great gray shades (nothing bad with gray, even if its is fog coming in), and reflections. 

“What is the meaning of life” is a big question which I have found nobody really can answer. It is soiled by religion, the regional culture, your family culture and upbringing with many more influences which the individual can’t get away with. I’d rather like to switch the words a bit and rather concentrate on having “Meaning in Life”. 
Being currently in China I had the opportunity to talk to many during the dinner time in which we all let loose from the business bla-bla and coming to learn to know each other better. We talked about the monthly and annual Zodiac signs, learning about the individual character traits as well who believed in its predicted outcomes. Many said yes they believed but do not drive their live decisions by it. Which drove the discussion to what actually drives you individually. Many said they want happiness. One said God, where then many of the others said yes and trying to support the lone person that the belief in God also drives towards happiness. I found that interesting and wanted to know more. So what is happiness for you? The majority then contemplated a bit more detailed saying family, some other said money. But what about your work, any sports, work, hobbies? That was when some got really excited and exchanged their thoughts and real desires. 

What is happiness for me? Happiness is an emotion, I though first and foremost think of it more as a state of being. It is the culmination of many things in the daily life which I share. It is also within the awareness of what I do that brings value to my life but also requires to some part doing things that have no real value to me but will bring value to others which then in return brings value. What do I value? Definitely my family. Their individual growth and struggles while witnessing how they one by one overcome them and gain to their own happiness. Work, as I receive money and can support my family. Work because finding, defining and implementing technical solutions and traveling meeting other people, cultures and views is  f?$&!ing fun and fulfilling.

Overall the state of being happy is the sharing of thought and work. While life is average, we can not always win and any loosing streak will fortunately have its end. The work we put in to overcome small or big struggles is providing the satisfaction. Receiving the confirmation that the work has provided positive values therefore have meaning resulting in happiness!

As we can not be happy all the time it shall not deter to strive for it daily. Trust the process. Acknowledge what you know and what you do not know. Learn the methods to gain knowledge. Work towards the things that have value to you and share with others. 

If you believe you can be happy without sharing and being alone, her a fact: No, nobody can be happy alone. You are just walking away from the struggles and not putting in the work to overcome. Yes, I wrote this in a hotel room alone. I like being alone once in a while but I know I am not alone as I share every day. There is nothing against a few minutes of peace and silence, but total loneliness and self-pity is not fulfilling as the vision to the others is restricted. Only in the collective you will be able to see the opportunities. Pit-falls though are free and grow to other opportunities. A fungus with many paths you can choose. 

 

I will, if all goes well turn 60 this year. Surviving mid-life crisis which was a new beginning I am moving towards the next new beginning. I am not scared personally about it but I am uncertain if my environment is ready to understand what this means and what they will do to compensate for that? I have had a life with a lot of exiting stuff and some totally boring that is not even worth to carry in my brain. A lot though has been accomplished in these years. A lot of unexpected but we endured. Even uncomfortable stuff has been dealt with and it was not even really hard, shocker. What has motivated me? I always was motivated to show what I am capable of, see the capabilities of others and tickle it out of them for them to succeed. Feeling a self worth and putting meaning into life that touch me directly.

 

 

Even if it sometimes felt tough and unbearable it has always turned out good and provided new opportunities for all participants.

Sure, I also enjoy a laugh and mid day nap.