Lazy-minded wishful thinker

 The ignorant! Who is that? It is the person that believes that everything will be just fine with a little magic sauce. If I do this, then that will happen. Unfortunately the ignorant mostly forgets to include other data points it well knows and therefore often misreads the room which then turns into anxiety as outcomes have shifted from the wishful good to an unknown outcome. The ignorant lies to themselves and ergo to the others while keeping up their expectations that all be fine. Who shall blame the ignorant in a world of memes, snippets and constant misinformation. 

 

 

Fact though is the human race in its conception is to work in a social bond. There is the leaders of the pack and eventually the youth will grow into their foot steps. The leader teaches and the youth adapts and in some cases rebels as they see the changes necessary to align to a changing reality. The ignorant in contrary though believes it can do all by its own while asking for help to spread the peanut butter onto its toast but never what the next step of progression could be. Further the lazy-minded believes strongly it deserves the right to be different and do whatever it wants while though also knowing it will cause adversity and then clams back into its shell to blame the others of its own wrongdoing and claiming of being never supported.  Lazy to think about the consequences while setting expectations to others which they even know they can't keep on their own. The lazy-minded that fear to ask for help because they could benefit from it and then not be able to declare it as their own win which they wish so much for themself.

The lazy-minded and wishful thinker is:

• a lair to themselves and ergo to its social surrounding
• a thief of value to themselves and others
• a destroyer of dreams

In the construct of the human race and its packs, each individual has its role. The elderly with the wealth of knowledge of good and bad and its hard work performed daily to protect, feed and nourish. The youth getting tasks buildup to provide them the knowledge over time so that they can support the next generation and being a leader or having a significant role in the pack. While obeying rules/laws of the pack.

Bare in mind each individual has expectations and anyone giving time, emotions and other valuables to others has that right to express and define rules that it wishes to be obeyed, respected. While nodding"yeah, sure" during the reveal of such it should actually mean something but the lazy-minded wishful thinker will eventually forget or has from the start internally rejected the requirements as being stupid. This just simply by the fact its lazy-mind believes in its entitlement and all will be fine. The portrayed though might feel very differently and will let go. 

Dreaming is not only a night sleeping thing. Dreaming is articulating what you want. After "I don't know", happiness is often named as a dream. If so, why then being lazy to acknowledge that others want to be happy too. Happiness comes mostly when issues are solved together, when values are shared and even when the values differ but you acknowledge that the feelings are true and you still can support them.

 One can turn into a hot potato if things are ignored. Life is work and it will always be. Its about being tidy for your own sake and values. Its about actually caring about others. Eager to look nice or towards a theme is a part of it and should not be ignored as it seems you actually want to fit in and appeal to others. Act accordingly and start to accept and own your mistakes. Explain your actions to allow you to work on betterment. Be truthful to yourself and start to set real expectations that you can achieve today and form a pattern to enable to reaffirm those towards your dreams. At the end you should have learned by now that life and partnership is hard work and a constant battle of expectations from all sides. You want to be active, then be active. Respect the rules of others and if you do not like the rules and want them to change then negotiate by achievements and not higher expectations. You want to be respected then start to respect others without any ties attached while not loosing your dreams and values. You state you need to be there for others but expect certain outcomes to your action then formulate them upfront and not after the fact. In return though listen to the demands set to you and accept them and adhere to them. Stop being a lazy-minded wishful thinker and actually read the books, the room. Understand that even if you have a hatred to one individual, you might have hurt others in your doing and should ask them for their forgiveness and potential help. Yes, help can be also hurtful as might learn what you do not want to hear but that is on you to comprehend why it hurts, accept and find ways to adapt. Chasing false narratives - wishful thinking sounds comfy but in reality it sucks and seldom becomes reality and you know it. Share to the values given to you as well the values you have taken out of them. 

What is happiness and how will it ever go forward?

It always will go forward!

How do you know you might ask and my answer will be factual, because it always has. Some of you will though argue but know-body gives of fuck as how I feel. Well, that is not true at all. Many care and why? Because you matter in many ways.  We are all a piece of the puzzle. Forget about the big political spectacle, what matter is the daily stuff of engagement and learning. Who has it worse in the world? The individual that has not eaten for the last ten days? The individual who just lost his/her first born child because there was no clean water available? Think about it. I hope this brings motivation to read below the pic. 

 

Life in its ups and downs, full of great gray shades (nothing bad with gray, even if its is fog coming in), and reflections. 

“What is the meaning of life” is a big question which I have found nobody really can answer. It is soiled by religion, the regional culture, your family culture and upbringing with many more influences which the individual can’t get away with. I’d rather like to switch the words a bit and rather concentrate on having “Meaning in Life”. 
Being currently in China I had the opportunity to talk to many during the dinner time in which we all let loose from the business bla-bla and coming to learn to know each other better. We talked about the monthly and annual Zodiac signs, learning about the individual character traits as well who believed in its predicted outcomes. Many said yes they believed but do not drive their live decisions by it. Which drove the discussion to what actually drives you individually. Many said they want happiness. One said God, where then many of the others said yes and trying to support the lone person that the belief in God also drives towards happiness. I found that interesting and wanted to know more. So what is happiness for you? The majority then contemplated a bit more detailed saying family, some other said money. But what about your work, any sports, work, hobbies? That was when some got really excited and exchanged their thoughts and real desires. 

What is happiness for me? Happiness is an emotion, I though first and foremost think of it more as a state of being. It is the culmination of many things in the daily life which I share. It is also within the awareness of what I do that brings value to my life but also requires to some part doing things that have no real value to me but will bring value to others which then in return brings value. What do I value? Definitely my family. Their individual growth and struggles while witnessing how they one by one overcome them and gain to their own happiness. Work, as I receive money and can support my family. Work because finding, defining and implementing technical solutions and traveling meeting other people, cultures and views is  f?$&!ing fun and fulfilling.

Overall the state of being happy is the sharing of thought and work. While life is average, we can not always win and any loosing streak will fortunately have its end. The work we put in to overcome small or big struggles is providing the satisfaction. Receiving the confirmation that the work has provided positive values therefore have meaning resulting in happiness!

As we can not be happy all the time it shall not deter to strive for it daily. Trust the process. Acknowledge what you know and what you do not know. Learn the methods to gain knowledge. Work towards the things that have value to you and share with others. 

If you believe you can be happy without sharing and being alone, her a fact: No, nobody can be happy alone. You are just walking away from the struggles and not putting in the work to overcome. Yes, I wrote this in a hotel room alone. I like being alone once in a while but I know I am not alone as I share every day. There is nothing against a few minutes of peace and silence, but total loneliness and self-pity is not fulfilling as the vision to the others is restricted. Only in the collective you will be able to see the opportunities. Pit-falls though are free and grow to other opportunities. A fungus with many paths you can choose. 

 

I will, if all goes well turn 60 this year. Surviving mid-life crisis which was a new beginning I am moving towards the next new beginning. I am not scared personally about it but I am uncertain if my environment is ready to understand what this means and what they will do to compensate for that? I have had a life with a lot of exiting stuff and some totally boring that is not even worth to carry in my brain. A lot though has been accomplished in these years. A lot of unexpected but we endured. Even uncomfortable stuff has been dealt with and it was not even really hard, shocker. What has motivated me? I always was motivated to show what I am capable of, see the capabilities of others and tickle it out of them for them to succeed. Feeling a self worth and putting meaning into life that touch me directly.

 

 

Even if it sometimes felt tough and unbearable it has always turned out good and provided new opportunities for all participants.

Sure, I also enjoy a laugh and mid day nap.